Addictions and Couples

Love is a feeling, but it is also a concept. To love something or someone is keeping a positive affective disposition. When we love what our actions show our interest and our attitudes. However, now that I love I have to be expressed in a certain way. Yes does not appear as I understand it, then, is not love, right there is when that love becomes a concept.

The simplest question, but one of the more complex answer is: What I mean by love? What needs to express that to which I name as love?

Yes we do not address these questions, perhaps, we confuse love with addiction or attachment. When we are not able to reflect on ourselves, our partners and relationships, then we run the risk of falling and confuse love with addiction.

Love can feel alive, the couple addiction fills us with pain, fear and shame. Addiction means not being able to dispense with that which supposedly gives me comfort. Addiction means not being able to give me that something that is so necessary, such as, food, drink, shopping, drugs, or destructive relationships. There is also an addiction to suffering, oddly enough, some people believe that if love does not hurt, does not make sense.

So at times, love is confused with the possibility of having to require the other to live. Much suffering in the name of love!

When love is intertwined with addiction, we are full of anxiety, we can not be spontaneous, we seek the best time to address the problems, we need the right words to justify our actions, then certainly we are in an addictive relationship to love . When the relationship as a couple, sad, confrontational or stressful as it may seem, it keeps us more upset, surely we are living in an addictive relationship but love.

All addicts, whatever, they feel very, very bad when they do not have the object of addiction, ie, when the relationship as a couple who profess to love becomes an addiction, it means that depend on this love, to encrypt my comfort or discomfort, my self or my bewilderment.

Every step I take, only in relationship with my partner. That is, the syndrome suffer on or off, if I'm okay with my partner, everything in my life works and I'm fine, I flow with life. But if not, everything in my life, becomes irritable, and seemingly pointless. My talks, my thoughts, my creativity, my very life, is in direct relation to the action of my partner. Life can only be understood in terms of my love or heartbreak.

So we build our bond of love in the unit and not on building a better and more satisfactory to both and to everyone involved. When this great love, becomes an addiction, we rely on the other, in this case, our partner to feel that my life has meaning.

The reality is that while we are unable to take responsibility for our own lives, of our project, where the relationship as a couple is only a supplement, then everything you do, say or happen to our partner, the more important, what happens to us ourselves.

Because in order to give and merge into a relationship with a partner, it is essential to be ourselves, and then build what we need in this life ...

The relationship as a couple is only one way in which we decided to move, but not the port, ie, once reached the goal, how can we do to continue this life of two ... with love or addiction?.

What kind of relationship you want in your life, an addictive love or mature love and certain ... Nobody can do for you ...

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